There comes a point in parenting where you realize the approach that worked when your kids were little just doesn't work anymore. The rules, the structure, the ability to redirect and reset — it all starts to feel like it's slipping. And if you have a teenager, you might already know that feeling well (iykyk 😅).The older our kids get, the more we bump up against a humbling truth most of us weren't quite prepared for: We never really had control to begin with. And once we accept that, we can finally ask a much better question — not "how do I get my teenager to behave?" but "how do I stay connected to this person I love so much while they figure out who they are?". That's exactly what today's episode is about.This week's guest is Emily Ricks, a certified life coach who especially loves working with moms of teenagers. She shares three mindset shifts that can help any mom of a teen move from white-knuckling the relationship to genuinely enjoying it, including:💜 Why Emily admitted that having a teenager "woke the Kraken" in her — and how she found her way back to connection 💜 Why the rules you're enforcing are likely costing you the very thing you're trying to protect 💜 What it actually looks like to take back your "emotional remote control" in the middle of a heated moment with your teenIf you're in the trenches of raising teenagers, this one's for you.***Announcements:Flecks of Gold Mother's Day Sale: Shop the Mother's Day Sale! Get 10% off every journal, plus free shipping! Use code MOMS10. Emily's Free GuideRelated Episodes:393: How to Enjoy (Not Just Endure) the Teen Years // Amie Anger396: How to Help Your Teen Live a Better Story303: How to Talk to Teenagers // Brooke RomneyEpisode Sponsors:Air Doctor:  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code 3in30 to get up to $300 off today. Air Doctor comes with a 30-day money-back guarantee, plus a three year warranty (an $84 value) free. Knix Teen: Finally period protection that keeps up with long school days and everything in between. Go to KnixTeen.com and use code 3IN30 for 15 percent off.Shopify: Start your business today with the industry's best business partner, Shopify, and start hearing ✦[CHA CHING]✦ Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at shopify.com/3in30.Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram!Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my lifeFind Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course***