10 Tips for Sexual Abuse Prevention
10 Tips for Sexual Abuse Prevention
Meghan Hurley Backofen
For the past twenty years, Meghan Hurley Backofen, LCSW has specialized in providing mental health treatment to child sexual abuse survivors and their families. Meghan is the Core Sexual Abuse Treatment Provider for Garfield County Department of Human Services and works out of the River Bridge Regional Center. This children's advocacy center serves Garfield, Eagle, Pitkin and Rio Blanco Counties in Western Colorado. Meghan is passionate about using evidence based modalities and is a Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior Therapy provider. Her experience has allowed her to develop expertise in working with victimized children and their non-offending caregivers. In addition to providing therapy, Meghan is a passionate educator on how to respond to and prevent child trauma. She has a variety of programs that she presents to mental health clinicians, community agencies, and parents. Her most requested class “10 Tips: What Caregivers should know to Protect Children from Sexual Abuse” inspired her children's book "Who's the Boss of This Body?". Meghan also teaches trauma courses as an adjunct professor for the University of Denver MSW program in Western Colorado. Meghan is especially grateful to all of her former clients for being her greatest teachers, and to her cousin, Adam Arriola and FINAO Agency, for the engaging illustrations in her book.
Tip #1: Why Kids Need to Know About Sexual Abuse
In this Episode, Meghan explains that the pervasiveness of child sexual abuse really demands that prevention needs to happen in every home. Children need to know that sexual abuse exists and that it happens to many children. Meghan helps parents to be able to address this topic with their children without scaring them, and without giving them developmentally inappropriate information about sex.
Dec 6, 2019
23 min
Tip # 2: Know Who Sexually Offends
In this episode Meghan explains how relying on sex offender registries and “stranger danger” parents misinform children. Both children and caregivers need to know that sexual abuse by a stranger is incredibly rare and in most cases of abuse there is a relationship with the perpetrator.
Dec 6, 2019
17 min
Tip #3: Understanding the Grooming Process
I “But he is such a nice guy, I can't believe he could do something like that!” “But she always wants to be with her uncle, she LOVES him!” In this episode listeners will better understand what is meant by grooming and how sexual offenders work to ensure that if a child does disclose abuse it will be difficult to believe.
Dec 6, 2019
23 min
Tip #4: Secrets Are Not Safe
In order to truly understand sexual abuse trauma, one needs to understand why children feel that they cannot tell. Child sexual abuse victims rarely tell about the abuse right away, and this makes for a much more substantial negative impact. In this episode listerners will learn how to help children to be more likely to talk about abuse if they are victimized.
Dec 6, 2019
42 min
Tip #5: Who's the Boss Of This Body
One of the best ways that caregivers can educate their child to prevent sexual abuse is to help them understand how they are “the boss of their body”. Meghan's children's book “Who's the Boss of this Body”, that is available on Amazon, is a useful tool in helping parents with this conversation. https://www.amazon.com/Whos-Boss-Meghan-Hurley-Backofen/dp/1093530804
Dec 6, 2019
15 min
Tip #6: Make CSA Prevention Part of Your Everyday Parenting
Many caregivers confuse a conversation about sexual abuse with ‘the sex talk”. All too often when Meghan asks a parent what they have done for sexual abuse prevention education thus far a parent will answer “Well I think they teach the kids about that in middle school”. Talking about sex and talking about sexual abuse are completely different things and Meghan helps listeners understand the difference. Sexual abuse prevention is not a one-time awkward conversation, but more a style of parenting that empowers children to know their boundaries and not keep secrets.
Dec 6, 2019
19 min
Tip #7: Know the Signs of Child Sexual Abuse
Although there are no definitive signs of sexual abuse there are certainly red flags that parents should look out for. Children often speak thorough behaviors and there are some that may indicate sexual abuse.
Dec 6, 2019
22 min
Tip #8 Know How to Respond
In this episode Meghan talks about how a caregiver's response to disclosures of sexual abuse is critical to a child's recovery. All to often "dead end disclosures" cause the victim additional trauma.
Dec 5, 2019
25 min
Tip #9: Know the Risk and Protective Factors
While no child is immune from sexual abuse there are some risk factors that may increase their liklihood of abuse. Understanding what protective factors can be put into place will ultimately reduce the risk of being traumatized by abuse.
Dec 5, 2019
23 min
Tip #10:  Raising Resilient Kids
In this episode Meghan supports parents to understand how they can ensure resiliency, even if their child is a victim of sexual abuse.
Dec 5, 2019
29 min