If you simply detach and remove yourself from your narcissistic parent without doing your own work, you will not heal. You will not learn authenticity. You will not develop inner peace. Your true self will not surface if you take yourself out of the situation without completing your internal growth. If you don’t place responsibility for the hurt where it belongs — with those who hurt you — you will block growth and false guilt will force you to let a narcissistic parent back into your life every single time
“What’s more important than initiating a break is learning how to be assertive and set limited boundaries when parents are inappropriate, controlling, invasive or abusive.” - DARLENE LANCER, MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPIST
· Low Contact means reserving contact for emergencies and holidays, knowing there will likely be abuse offered. This is like returning to the stove again and again, knowing you will get burned, but deciding the circumstances warrant it. I advise combining this with Protected Contact when possible.
· No Contact means exactly what it says. It’s a decision requiring much thought, exploring with a licensed and qualified mental health professional, and a lot of courage. Our society can be judgmental about this decision and the patient must be prepared for these responses, as well as the feelings of grief that may follow.
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