Hello everyone, so today I want to talk about saying yes more so and maybe

yes is a default. So yesterday I was talking with my sister and I was justover at her house and and her son came over and asked if he could have asoda and she said yes and I we continue talking and I said, oh man, it justfeels so nice to be able to say yes to your kids right and she said yes, orI really nice and and she said I tried to say yes as much as I can and yeahthe way that I feel about it.

Is like my kids will sometimes ask me why I say no all the time and I say

no you got this backwards you just ask me questions that I'll say no to allthe time that's the problem and and so anyway, I've just been thinkingabout this and I feel like more of my default should be to say yes as adefault so I I should be like the burden of proof should be on the noanswer so it should be more of like why should you why would you say norather than trying to justify the yes and the reason that I'm sharing thiswith?

You all is not because I know the you're not all parents and stuff um, but

because I feel like this is like parenting is a really great example or aman what's the word I can't think of the word I'm looking for but like it itrelates very closely to relationships in general and um as much as we liketo pretend it's not software is a lot about relationships, especially whenyou're working at a company and so if you're a team.

Lead or you're managing a team of engineers or something like that you want

to default to guess and so rather than just kind of seeing these peoplethat you're you've got a relationship with as you know, it's somebody thatyou have to endure or appease or whatever you should be trying to see howlike how you can help them be happy and satisfied with the relationship andthat I I think defaulting to yes, most of the time is a good practice andso,For a lot of the time I default to know with my kids if they want to askme something I'm automatically thinking okay, how can I say no but I'm Ithink that it is better to switch that up and instead think how can I sayyes and focus more on finding reasons to say yes and there should be moreweight on the yes than on the no so anyway hope that's kind of useful toyou in whatever you're doing relationships are awesome and have a wonderfulday.