In this episode, I dive into the normalization of casual dehumanization in the COVID era and how easy it is to disregard peoples’ humanness when the mainstream narrative contributes to division and binary ways of thinking. In reflecting on this topic, I admit my own past mistakes of having misunderstood or gaslit other peoples’ experiences when I didn’t share their views, reminding me that my own feelings of being dehumanized have made me much more compassionate and empathetic. As a change of pace, I turn to the pop culture space to explore the intriguing life of the D’Amelio family as Charli and Dixie navigate skyrocketing to fame and the overwhelming scrutiny they face. Exploring the dynamics of success and criticism of people who’ve “made it”, I uncover why we might be holding ourselves back by giving into jealousy and judgment and I offer ways to reframe those sentiments toward successful individuals so you may view them as an expander instead and reflect on your own shadows. Through reminding you that mental health issues impact everyone and challenging you to see yourself in others, I invite you to reassess your judgments and potential dehumanization of the “others” in your life. Enjoy!

Key Points From This Episode:

• How the news and media perpetuate binary thinking and normalize dehumanizing those who are different from you.
• Why punishing people for their unique health decisions is dangerous behavior to normalize.
• How feeling the effects of casual dehumanization teaches you to hold greater compassion for people you’ve misunderstood or accidentally gaslit in the past and to understand how others can gaslight or dehumanize you without realizing it, too.
• Why our inclination to hate content creators or famous TikTok stars might be rooted in a lack of understanding and jealousy rather than pure hate.
• Reframing jealousy and judgment as indicators of your own insecurity more than they are a reflection of the other person.
• Social media and the heavy integration of phones into our lives creating a perceived constant 3rd viewpoint that makes us anxious, feeling like we are being watched all the time.
• Why denying people’s deservingness reflects back our own lack of feeling like we deserve success.
• Why leaving mean comments on the internet is like pointing out every mistake or dislike we have at the dinner table, it’s mostly rude and counterproductive.
• Arriving at the realization that the best way to respond to negative behaviors and the division of today is with love, peace, and compassion. 

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